Balancing Act: Thriving as a Full-Time Working Mom

Thriving as a Full-Time Working Mom

Being a wife, mother, and career professional can pull you in many directions. In addition to raising a family and growing your career, you have many other responsibilities: errands, laundry, meal planning, and keeping everything in your household running smoothly each day. 

Managing all these obligations, especially when you don’t get enough help, can quickly lead to feeling overwhelmed. However, it doesn’t have to be that way. By creating more efficiencies in your life and getting some professional help, you can improve your work-life balance and do more of the things you love.

The Challenges of Being a Working Mom and Wife

Full-time working moms are often still responsible for managing the bulk of childcare and household management activities. A Gallup study found that, in both single- and dual-income homes, women are significantly more likely than men to be responsible for chores such as doing laundry, preparing meals, caring for children, and cleaning the home.

Additionally, because moms are responsible for so many of these activities, they also carry more of the associated mental load of invisible tasks such as planning, anticipating, following up, and decision-making.

For many women, the pressure to do it all and be a “supermom” can result in feelings of stress, overwhelm, and burnout. In fact, an estimated 42 percent of working moms have been diagnosed with anxiety or depression—far more than the general population (28 percent).

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Tips for Saving Time, Reducing Your Stress, and Achieving Better Balance

If you’re feeling overwhelmed as a mother and wife, you don’t have to spend your days feeling exhausted, overworked, or paralyzed by a messy house. You can take the following steps to transform your life and get more time for what matters most:

1. Set meaningful goals.

To address the stressors in your life, it’s critical to identify them and set goals for your ideal future state. You can get started by making a list of all the things you love to do and those you detest and would love to get off your plate entirely

For instance, if you feel grocery shopping and running errands take up too much time, you can create a goal to reduce the time those tasks take—perhaps by ordering online or limiting errands to a specific number of times per month. Once you’ve established your goals, you can prioritize them and commit to making the changes that turn those goals into reality.

2. Create efficiencies in everyday tasks.

Though you may have performed certain chores the same way for years, it’s worth considering that there might be a more efficient way to get them done. For example, you may find that meal planning simplifies grocery shopping and meal prep, and creating a home maintenance schedule helps to cut down on the number of calls for repairs. 

Sometimes, the only way to know if something works for you is to try it. Once you’ve identified strategies to streamline tasks and eliminate unnecessary steps, you can implement your new approach for a week or two to assess its impact. Even the smallest tweaks can significantly improve how you spend your time.

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3. Get household help.

If you’ve been responsible for managing everything around the home, kids’ schedules, and family activities, it can be challenging to let go and consider outsourcing some of those tasks. However, when you do, you can tackle your to-do list and get more time for the priorities you’ve set for yourself—whether it’s to spend more quality family time, dedicate yourself to more philanthropic work, or have more time for self-care.

Outsourcing chores to a household assistant is an excellent way to get reliable, professional help for everyday chores and home projects. Household assistants aren’t just for celebrities and the superrich; you, too, can have an assistant to perform any of the following:

  • Doing laundry and dropping off/picking up dry cleaning
  • Making and rescheduling appointments
  • Planning, prepping, and cleaning up after meals
  • Shopping for groceries
  • Making returns
  • Caring for pets and taking them to the vet
  • Planning travel
  • Managing home renovation and redecorating projects
  • Managing and supervising vendors

Say Goodbye to Feeling Overwhelmed as a Mom and Wife

If there’s a disconnect between where you want to dedicate your energy and passion and how you actually spend your time, it’s time for a change. While you can create new efficiencies with some tasks, there may be others you want to offload completely. A household assistant can help you do that and much more, allowing you to take ownership of your time and enjoy your life more fully. 

To see all you can achieve with professional household help, check out our guide, What Your Life Could Look Like with a Household Assistant.

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